One would assume that multiple children in the same home would be very similar to each other. However, anyone who has had more than one child or even observed families knows this is not at all true.
It is a mystery to many why siblings would have such different personalities, but when you really think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Here are some of the main reasons that every child in your home is an individual rather than a carbon copy of their brothers and sisters.
Each Child Is an Individual
Although being part of the same family will ultimately affect us in many ways, every child is an individual. No matter how similar of an upbringing your children have to each other, they are born with their own personalities and character traits. This will combine with other factors to make them who they are.
As a parent, you will notice that your children have their own distinctive attributes even from birth. It is important to parent your children in a manner that is fair, but that is different and caters to their individual needs.
Birth Order Has a Great Effect
Birth order has a huge effect on siblings. Many children have more similar attributes to children with the same birth order in completely different families than they do to their own siblings.
For example, older children are often surrounded by adults instead of siblings, at least for the first few years. This tends to make them relate well to adults, and they sometimes have difficulties putting up with the foolish nonsense that they perceive other children as participating in. Younger children are often coddled and thought of as cute enough to get away with everything by everyone around them, and so they often are good natured and the life of the party.
They Are Raised By Different Parents in a Sense
The set of parents you were and are to your first child is not the same set of parents you are to your second or third child. As a generalization, you as a first-time parent are cautious, fearful and determined to do absolutely everything right – down to every single bite of food and every ingredient in your childís bubble bath.
As you have more children, you generally begin to loosen up a little bit and make exceptions for the sake of your sanity, your relationships, and your wallet. Younger children generally get more ice cream cones, a wider range of acceptable activities and basically more freedom. Although your children technically have the same set of parents, you change dramatically from your oldest child to your youngest, giving your children a completely different experience in life.
Your children might be raised in the same family, but observations prove that your children are likely to be as different as night and day. Cherish the individuality of each of your children because each one of them is made completely unique due to both biology and circumstances. Variety is the spice of life and the differences between your children will prove this again and again.